8 Weird Things Men Like in Women

Men are crazy. And they get crazier when they see you approach him in those red pumps and skinny jeans with a baggy and casual tee in style and confidence. Although there are a thousand things which make your irresistible, here are the top most unbelievable ones:

1. No make-up: Oops. Sorry girl. There’s a great chance that your guy hasn’t even noticed your smokey eyes or the new bronzer on your face. Save money and turn him on!

2. Lingerie that doesn’t match : And you though you should pair your lacy, satin purple panties with a purple bra? Show him that you are unprepared and yet give in to his desires and make yourself hotter!

3. Wit : You thought it was all about physical contact? Crack a joke or flash your smile and he’s sure to get wooed! Tip: It’s better still if you are game even for jokes that are played on you. And why not? It just proves how self-assured you are.

4. Curvy is sexy: He doesn’t like flat abs and zero sizes. Men love love-handles.

5. Intelligence, confidence, emotional maturity and sexual openness : Flaunt your real self (sans the gloss), support him when he is down, talk dirty and show your sensual attitude, and girl, you’ve got him!

6. Wearing a baggy tee to bed: Stay casual and he’ll be more comfortable in your company. Don’t intimidate him by being prim always or sounding like a know-it-all.

7. Unkempt hair: Whoa, why get prim and proper when your man likes your bed-hair or smudged kohl eyes?

8. Eye contact: Make yourself irresistible by looking at his eyes and putting across your point. Don’t be shy.

Single Guys Love Bad Girls

Getting tied down by a relationship is a situation she detests. Instead, she loves to change her men like she changes clothes. She doesn’t mind making out inside the office lift, especially if her workplace is on the sixth-seventh-eighth floor, or more. She is game for unplanned sex, mainly since she loves all kinds of physical surprises.

For that girl, that uninhibited, sexy, licentious, mischief-loving girl, variety is the spice of sex. Now, meet her loving buddies, those single guys who don’t wish to marry the limitations of a long-term relationship. Chances are that they like to live for the moment, the present being the only reality they can actually see and, hence, willing to accept. Or else, they may not have found the sort of Miss Right they have been looking for. Whatever the reason for being single, many such guys like to fly in the company of a free bird.

Why is that so? One, when our lady is so footloose and fancy-free, commitment is simply unnecessary. A guy can have a good time. So can the girl. Both of them can enjoy each other’s company – in which great, experiment-laden sex is a must – and coolly go their own way. Works for both. Keeps both smiling. The world seems a much better place to live in.

Two, many guys lust after one-night stands. Seeing a person who is willing to make love without inhibitions makes them go weak in their knees. They love to be in a sexually intimate situation in which tomorrow promises to be another day, with today completely forgotten.

Three, many guys are generally convinced that multiple-timing is a dream-like situation that seldom materializes. When they are single, they are ready to mingle with as many as possible. When a girl who thinks similarly comes along – and that is much rarer – such a guy tries his best to reach out to her. For, making love to her is a fulfillment of a dream, the first step towards multiple-timing he had been aspiring for so long.

If you know such guys, and you are likely to, don’t be surprised. He is simply one more horny guy for whom sex means the beginning and the end of a good life.

What Women love To See In A Man

It’s not just about being tall, dark and handsome. There are certain ‘manly’ qualities about guys that can make any woman go weak in her knees. And while you may think it’s all about the looks, guess what? There’s more. It’s a potent mix of both, physical attributes and of course, that all important emotional touch. Here, we tell you about six points you need to heed.

Well groomed
Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you present yourself. Just like guys like a women who is well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that they are perfectly groomed a la Leonardo DiCaprio. The basic funda women believe in is that if you are careful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys, sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are an absolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from the opposite sex.

A sense of style
Women would rather have you splurging on them than on obscenely priced designer wear. So, even if it’s a typical roadside purchase that you swear by, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylised look and maintain it. Women don’t really expect you to be a picture copy of a Pierce Brosnan or a David Beckham, but trying to imitate their style will surely up your popularity quotient. Keep yourself updated on the latest trends. Also, just as you have your reservations against the ‘nun-type’ dressers, women too hesitate when it comes to the boring office type dresser.

Laugh it out
One of the most important trait that woman dig is a sense of humour. Women have more than enough problems to deal with and don’t really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, you have your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humour, and clean humour at that. Beware, taking a dig at others and constantly putting others down do not really spell fun for women. And we can’t tell you enough how much women love people who can laugh at themselves and their own mistakes.

Show them you care
Women need to be constantly reassured that they are loved and cared for. Acts like holding their hand while walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks and making sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care for them. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you are with. However, beware of being crass while displaying you affections.

A sexy smile/wink
There’s a reason why women absolutely adore Richard Gere or Hugh Jackman and it has a lot to do with the way that they smile or that glint in their eyes. Believe us when we tell you that if you look at them and smile like that, it does make them feel very special, like they are one in a million.

Be calm
Woman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn’t help if you too get stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in your looks as it does in your attitude – women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who is able to calm them down and reassure them that all is well.

Sex With EX can be Dangerous

It wouldn't be inappropriate to say that physical intimacy is a binding factor in a relationship. In fact, the emotional and physical aspects are almost intangible, which is why, when two individuals decide to part ways, the situation is shattering for both. Two possible circumstances measure up here – a consensual break-up, the decision for which is usually a practical one or a painfully heartbreaking affair for either the boy or the girl, whosoever did not expect the blow. The reasons for break-up may vary but the embers of passion remain in all hearts, veiled and often disregarded as "past is past". So what happens when these embers turn into sparks again?

The sex was great!

Some relationships blossom at the sheer thrill of sex. Emotional bonding is usually absent in these cases and the futileness of continuing the relationship is realized sooner or later. But the passionate encounters are simply hard to forget and the craving exists. For 25-year-old Pooja, a flight attendant, sex was the most exciting part of her 5-year long relationship. Says she, "More than anything, I miss the sex. It was the only thing that connected us because otherwise there was nothing in common between us." When asked if she would consider getting back with her ex for the sake of sex only, she replied in affirmative. "There was hardly any emotional connection and I think it would be fun to experience the amazing feeling once again" she said.

A bitter break-up

The thought of a sexual encounter with an ex-lover is a sore spot for many men. Unlike women, they are not quite comfortable at the thought of backtracking into the boulevards of their turbulent past. Even if the general perception about them is that they treat sex far more casually than women, their hesitation manifests loud and clear when confronted with their ex-affairs. 26-year-old Manish, a sports journalist says, "A break-up is always bitter and hurtful. When two people decide to end the relationship, there's no question of getting back together, be it for sex or anything." Of course, there are others who do not concur with this attitude. However, there are those that make no bones about enjoying sex with ex for old times' sake. "If my ex is comfortable with the 'no strings attached' idea, then I am in", says 22-year-old Rahul, an MBA student.

Love's labour regained

The emotional bonding and physical intimacy are two sides of the same coin and a sudden or planned sexual encounter with an ex can sprout hopes of reviving the lost love. A slight nudge on the arm or a soft kiss can do wonders. 27-year-old Neha, a software professional, agrees. "My boyfriend and I weren't seeing anyone for a long time post the break-up. Recently we met at a common friend's party, got drunk and made out. Since then our love has found a new meaning and has grown manifold. It has actually healed the differences and brought us closer."

Inhibitions galore

While it may seem a somewhat acceptable trend, having sex with an ex-lover certainly does not go down well with the ones who've endured a hurtful break-up. Their inhibition and inability to divulge their vulnerability to a new person prevents them from falling in love once again. Subsequently, it lures them to believe that such an encounter might recreate the magic of unrequited love.

Expert's take

Dr Deepak Raheja, senior psychiatrist & psychotherapist feels that such temptations primarily emanate from insecurity. The biggest fear of urbanization is loneliness and hence people fear abandonment. Another reason could simply be 'kink'. Monotony could lead to an urge to re-explore the sparks of the past relationship. And how does it affect the people involved? "It depends on the intensity of the present relationship. Complications are bound to occur – comparisons of the past with the present, guilt of cheating on your partner which escorts ambivalence." He sums it up by saying, "If you play with fire, you will burn your hands. So either be very careful or avoid it because it's difficult to rekindle the past."

The world seems to agree as well as disagree, and the perspectives are, without a doubt, subjective. While some chicken out at the thought of an intimate encounter without wanting anymore emotional turmoil, others start the game on a clean slate. This decision to run the risk of stroking the dormant feelings is indeed a tricky one and its fairness depends exclusively on the situation one is in. Staying in touch with your ex means no harm and meeting up over a coffee occasionally is fine too. Make sure you don't end up jeopardizing your mental peace at the cost of a one-time temptation and you're good to go.

"Only by acceptance of the past, can you alter it" – T S Eliot.

10 Things A Woman Should Know

We list 10 things every woman should know

1. Calling you does not mean we are hitting on you
Most men are left wondering that why’s it that just because he called you, you assumed he wants you to fill in the post of his girlfriend. He may actually just want to hang out with you.

2. You are much prettier without all that makeup
Your basic foundation and kajal is fine, but layers upon layers of makeup only makes you unappealing to your guy. So keep it simple.

3. When you act giggly, it’s seriously embarrassing
When you spot your gang of girls while you are out with your boyfriend, don’t squeal and go giggly or jump up and down. Most men find it extremely childish.

4. Gossiping, whispering and writing notes makes you look shallow
When you pass notes or whisper when you and your friends are sitting at a table along with others makes it seem like you are still in your classroom.

5. Boys worry about what you think of their hair, skin, weight and clothes
Do tell your boyfriend if you think his new haircut makes him look cute or if his favourite T-shirt needs to be done away with.

6. PMS is no excuse to be mean
Yes, men do understand that every month you are likely to get crabby for a few days, but that’s not reason enough to be mean and cranky all the time.

7. Talking about your butt is boring
It’s a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn’t want to be dumped — will ever tell his girfriend that she is looking fat. So no in point discussing, arguing and then discussing some more, about weight issues with your boyfriend.

8. Tight clothes make you look sort of desperate and insecure
You may be in shape but anything that amounts to too much skin show is not going to be appreciated by your boyfriend. Don’t keep showing how desperate you are. It can be a big put off if the guy is serious about you.

9. Most boys are looking for the right girl
It’s not just women who are looking for Mr Right, but boys are looking out for their Miss Perfect too. So don’t be scared to play the love game.

10. If you like him, just tell him
Don’t pretend to ignore him and then cry when he asks another girl out for dinner. If he’s interested in you, and if you feel the same way then respond. Don’t keep the guy waiting too long.

Tricks To Get Him Out of His Shell

Not all men are bold, or the kinds who can show the world they're macho. There are some men who are naturally shy and prefer being reserved. And some women tend to fall for exactly these men, solely because they're charming and never take that extra step to pretend being what they are not. But hold on, dating a shy man is not as easy as it looks like.

Considering their nature, it just might be extremely tough for shy guys to talk about their likes and dislikes or even for that matter, about intimate topics which are natural in a relationship. It needs extreme patience and understanding to deal with a shy man in a relationship. But, all's not a lost cause ladies, there are ways in which you can make your shy guy feel comfortable without making it overtly obvious that you're trying to get him out of his shell and become an integral part of both, your world and the relationship.

Be the initiator:
Since your man is shy, he just might not be the one to initiate a conversation, talk intimate or even kiss you unexpectedly. Hence, the onus lies on you. Be confident and initiate the kind of talk or action that you feel is relevant to your relationship. Keep up the effort and in some time, he will also get into the groove of things and start initiating all this by himself.

Tell him even if he doesn't ask:
If it's your first date and he's the shy type, he might not be the kind who'll ask you questions like about yourself. Hence, your best option is to just go ahead and do the honours yourself. But don't dish out all the dope on the first date itself, it may just make you seem desperate. Spread it out evenly over various dates. As you talk about yourself, get him to talk about himself on the same topics. You'll see how, in a while, he'll be very comfortable reversing roles.

Be considerate:
If his shyness makes him feel uncomfortable in large crowds, choose less crowded places for the initial date. Go to small cafes and restaurants that you know will not be overcrowded and try and avoid places like malls, theatres, pubs or shopping arenas. After a few dates, you can attempt to take him out with a group of friends, but not unless he is comfortable. When you both are out with friends, make sure that he knows at least two people in the group, so it's easy for him to communicate and open-up and he won't feel left out.

Be calm:
Don't let his shy nature irritate you and ruin your dates. Instead accept him for who he is. Don't get overexcited or react violently if he doesn't show the same enthusiasm as you do for certain things. Remember, he is shy by nature and this kind of behaviour will undoubtedly make him uncomfortable. Your main aim should be to gel with him, not scare him away. Also, try to be enthusiastic about his favourite things even if they bore you to death.

Stick to the right kind of questions:
While talking to him, never ask questions that need monosyllabic answers like 'yes' or 'no', your conversation will be nothing less than dialogues of a slow and boring movie. Instead, ask him subjective or open ended questions. This is an easy trick to get him to start talking.

There are many men out there who are shy and it's difficult for them to get talking. But that doesn't make them any different. If you are lucky and strike the right chord, you might just be in for a beautiful relationship with a gem of a man. But the trick of the trade is to know how to get your man to leave his shell and get into the comfort zone for good.